A number of couples in our circle of friends have recently announced their intention of splitting up. Most of these friends have been in long-term relationships and for whatever reason have decided on venturing along their own paths towards greener pastures. This news always leaves us with an uneasy sense of sadness and regret.
In February this year my husband and I celebrated 27 years of marriage. As expected in long term relationships we too have had our own set of hiccups over the years, but we have remained together and shared our lives in a happy and fulfilling marriage.
The break-ups of our close friends leaves us rather disconcerted, even though we are not directly involved in their lives. For us it feels like an earth tremor – not a “7” on the Richter Scale, but a mild “2” perhaps – as the stability of our extended support group is now brought into question.
Each time I hear of such a break-up, I make a point of going to my dear hubby and giving him a great big bear hug as well as a long speech about how much he means to me. I affectionately call him, “The Boss”, a term which makes fun of the fact that he is such an easy going and wonderful man. He is also a man of few words, but what I’ve discovered over the years of our marriage is that he can come up with the most profound (and wise) statements at the most unexpected moments.
Last night, on hearing about another breakup of two of our friends, I said to him...
“So why don’t YOU go and look for greener pastures?”
To which my dear hubby replied:
“Why do I need greener pastures when I have my very own cabbage patch?”
I have found this retort both endearing and very amusing. Amidst my enjoyment of his words, I have also asked myself,
What on earth does he mean by “Cabbage Patch?!”
Does he mean this...
Or does he mean this...
What possibly could my dear Man mean?
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